life after Poker

    • luckydont
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      What do you guys do to cool down after long poker sessions, especially tilty and costly ones. I noticed that after they happen, I sometimes might "bark" at my girlfriend and people around me. Unhappiness sneaks out from Poker results to my real life. Even though I know short term results doesn't matter, I can't stop myself from doing this. Any ideas?:f_ugly:
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    • la55i
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      Have you read The Mental Game of Poker? It helped me with tilting.
    • metalmonkey80
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      Hi luckydont,

      So far in my poker career I have had a few tiltly moments. Including one I am going through now :f_mad:
      Before I found myself pushing on and being more aggressive at the tables bluffing more and loosing more.
      This time I have just accepted that the variants are not in my favor and after reviewing my game, that there is nothing I can do about it.
      Some of the things I do to tackle a bad poker mood off the tables is to go for a walk or run and shake off all the negativity straight after my grind.
      Something else I have found really helps is putting that aggression into house work or cooking.
      If you have any mental game books I would also recommend reading them even if you already have. This has helped solidify in my mind that there is nothing I can do about it other than not to let it affect my game in the future.

      Also maybe say to your girlfriend that you had a bad day at work, and sorry if I am in a bad mood. :f_biggrin:

      Hopefully this may be some help to you.

      Regards

      Matt
    • AlvisR
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      I go and do my gf :f_thumbsup:



      Tilt: when you think you are the boss and deserve all, but it doesnt come your way, you still think you have more power than others and you rage. Lack of information + evil ego of every human being. Best cure for tilt: let someone punch you in face :roto2:
    • luckydont
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      Thanks for all the great advice's. I have read few poker psychology books. And have years of practice, still happens though...
      I've been experimenting lately with this - Cooling down Audio-video . Run it after every poker session , works very well for me, allows to look at your poker from another angle which calms down the agitated mind.
    • Mobcasinos
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      I go out with my friend and drink some ice cold beer. We talk about what happen during the game and how we lost the game. After that day it just like nothing happens and life of a poker gamer continues to roll on.
    • Primrose6789
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      I quit the session before getting tilty and just do something else like reading or I shift down to a lower limit or freerolls and play it through there so that I can minimize my losses.
    • luckydont
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      Originally posted by Mobcasinos
      I go out with my friend and drink some ice cold beer. We talk about what happen during the game and how we lost the game. After that day it just like nothing happens and life of a poker gamer continues to roll on.
      That's best! to have people who can actually understand what the "bad beat" and the "downswing is!" :f_thumbsup: Not everyone has them though, and they are not always accessible. It's like crutch that sometimes you can not reach.
    • luckydont
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      Originally posted by Primrose6789
      I quit the session before getting tilty and just do something else like reading or I shift down to a lower limit or freerolls and play it through there so that I can minimize my losses.
      Quitting before getting tilty is a good strategy but it doesn't solve the problem. It's just an escape, it harms your volume and your inner self.
    • luckinsearch
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      Just take a break and chill as usual. If you're losing, most of the time is avoidable so just quit the game when you're tilted/frustrated.
    • Primrose6789
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      Quitting before getting tilty is a good strategy but it doesn't solve the problem. It's just an escape, it harms your volume and your inner self.
      Yes it is but for some players this is the best strategy, especially for beginners who are not used to longer loosing streaks yet. It´s not easy! You really have to get used to that. You can also move down in limits and grind your loosing streak out at lower limits in order to minimize your loss.

      For those people who tend to tilt it´s much better to take a break or play less than tilting away the money, right?
    • microstraddler
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      I also do not believe that a short-term solution is sustainable, since the feelings will always come back. ALWAYS!

      But I feel the best short-term fix, is to take a long walk. Walk for at least 45 minutes, by yourself and leave your phone/music at home.
      This will force/allow you to collect your thoughts and hopefully get some perspective on the situation.

      Also, studies shows that walking on uneven ground, releases more serotonin than if walking on even ground.
      (i.e: walking in a forest will make you happier/calmer, than if walking on concrete.)


      Cheers!
    • SPeedFANat1c
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      (i.e: walking in a forest will make you happier/calmer, than if walking on concrete.)
      this I think has to do because you get more oxygen - trees produce it
    • microstraddler
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      Originally posted by SPeedFANat1c
      (i.e: walking in a forest will make you happier/calmer, than if walking on concrete.)
      this I think has to do because you get more oxygen - trees produce it

      I do not believe oxygen is a factor.
      Are people at high altitude more sad/stressed than people at sea level?


      Cheers!
    • BarryCarter
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      I almost forgot to reply to this, I wrote a piece about this last weekend

      https://www.pokerstrategy.com/news/world-of-poker/99421/
    • SPeedFANat1c
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      Originally posted by microstraddler
      Originally posted by SPeedFANat1c
      (i.e: walking in a forest will make you happier/calmer, than if walking on concrete.)
      this I think has to do because you get more oxygen - trees produce it

      I do not believe oxygen is a factor.
      Are people at high altitude more sad/stressed than people at sea level?


      Cheers!
      no idea :)
    • PeldaCmelda
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      yes true
    • scotalad2006
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      I cool down by chasing the cat around the house.
    • GingerKid
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      Originally posted by luckydont
      What do you guys do to cool down after long poker sessions, especially tilty and costly ones. I noticed that after they happen, I sometimes might "bark" at my girlfriend and people around me. Unhappiness sneaks out from Poker results to my real life. Even though I know short term results doesn't matter, I can't stop myself from doing this. Any ideas?:f_ugly:
      I quitted poker after that :)
    • Primrose6789
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      I went for an anti-tilt run a couple of hours ago. It helped.
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