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An extraordinairy life: Moving outside the box... wait why should I ?

    • Schrader69
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      Thats an interesting point.
      I read that procrastination has nothing to do with laziness but a fear of something. we dont do whatever we think we should because of a fear of failure, of success, of being imperfect, of being judged, many many different things.
      Just something I found interesting & might help in answering some of those 'why' questions.
    • Schnitzelfisch
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      You just gave me some ideas :D .

      Yeah, in general when you have a "bad" day, it's a great opportunity to figure out why things went wrong and how to prevent them in the future :) .

      All of our mistakes (that we notice) are great opportunities for improvement.

      -SF
    • Wolfske
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      Originally posted by Schrader69
      Thats an interesting point.
      I read that procrastination has nothing to do with laziness but a fear of something. we dont do whatever we think we should because of a fear of failure, of success, of being imperfect, of being judged, many many different things.
      Just something I found interesting & might help in answering some of those 'why' questions.
      Yeah maybe dissappointment .. the fear of not reaching a dream o you just set it aside so you can't hurt yourself because you chased something you know was going to be difficult ... and everybody can see so you'll be affraid to be judged like you said :)

      Already fell flat on my face with some of my goals .. but even though I didn't succeed my gym-goal in 5 years I still didn't give up. But it's true it's very scary to keep chasing it (I had serious problems doing that the last 3 months)
    • Wolfske
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      Originally posted by Schnitzelfisch
      You just gave me some ideas :D .

      Yeah, in general when you have a "bad" day, it's a great opportunity to figure out why things went wrong and how to prevent them in the future :) .

      All of our mistakes (that we notice) are great opportunities for improvement.

      -SF
      yeah the nice thing about a bad day is that you actually noticed your mistakes that's why bad days actually are pretty awesome if you ask me :D

      Going to read my book now .. habit 2 here I come :f_cool:
    • CharlesPkR
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      Originally posted by Wolfske
      My vision statement:

      So one day I was walking on the street and I noticed this guy. He seemed like a very happy guy he smiled at me as I passed through. The guy also seemed fit and really seemed to enjoy his day.

      Days later I met him more and more. I am kind of a shy guy but one day he came to me and we talked. It was a nice talk. I learned he also loves poker and he’s pretty good at it. I hope to play on the same stakes as him someday and become a MTT specialist myself. He also told me about his awesome weekend. He went to a great party and said I should join him next time because it was really fun. I also kinda noticed he had a nice physique. He was pretty muscular and looked very healthy.

      So next weekend I decided to meet up with him at a party. I had an OK time but not great. I felt the urge to get drunk so I could be more social to strangers. I stopped doing that …so my party wasn‘t that awesome. My new friend didn’t seem to have those problems. He didn’t consume alcohol but talked to a lot of his friends and also strangers. He was having an awesome time. At the party he was telling some cool stories about travels he made. It was unbelievable.

      As time progressed we became good friends. We didn’t have a lot of quantity time because he was always going on new adventures and stuff. But when I needed him he was always there. He always had nice stories to tell. When we would get an argument we would easily settle and he didn’t have the urge to win. He respected my opinion as I did respect his.

      As I learned to know him better he told me about his job. It was a job wich wasn’t to demanding but was really satisfactory and because of his job and poker winnings he really earned some money wich made him able to do the activities he wanted to do so he never had to worry about the money. He was also thinking about making his own cooperation and maybe quitting his job. But he wasn’t sure on that yet. He had some nice plans though and because of his social behaviour a lot of connections to help him achieving this.

      Well one day he told me to meet him at a fun fair. The weirdest thing happened. Nobody was at the fun fair and it gave me the chills. Well we were supposed to meet up at a place with funny mirrors .. But I didn’t see him anywhere. This wasn’t his habit. Maybe he was inside the tent. So I went inside and I only saw one mirror in this tent … on top of the mirror it said : ‘future you’. I looked into the mirror and there was my friend.

      This guy wich seemed so awesome was future me !


      That's a very nice post. I fully recognize myself (well, my vision statement) in your vision statement.
      I did mine recently, but wasn't that original.

      For sure I will follow your blog, we have the same goals.
    • bjela
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      Nice blog, I'll definitely follow this :)
    • Wolfske
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      Thanks guys ! It really motivates me to see some reactions here !

      Yesterday went out with friends .. did have a nice time untill it was around 23.00 - 00.00 , think I was tired or something... Did laugh a lot though, it was nice to go away with friends again ! Went to sleep at 02.00 woke up slowly at 9.00 went to the gym around 10.00-10.30 and i am home now :)

      Just checking some stuff out before I start reading in my book ! :)
      Oh yeah yesterday I also won $50 while playing poker. I mixed the 45s and the 180s and I had some smaller prizes and a second place in the 45s and also a second place in a 180 man. This gets me back to breakeven this week ... The month is still pretty succesfull though ! :)

      Also had coaching, learned some stuff. Really need to figure out for myself when to minraise and when to push ... I get it now but I still have to apply it faster (when multi tabeling I still make some mistakes here and there)
    • liessens
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      Nice blog. I will surely follow
    • CharlesPkR
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      Because of you I just bought Carnegie's book 2 days ago. I read now the first principle and my feeling is that I like the book, I think it will be pretty useful.

      I already read the 7 habits around 2 years ago but not entirely because I found it very condensate, and I wanted to take the habit before continuing. So I think I didn't pass the third habit, but still it was very useful, and I'll read it again when I'll go home.


      I read that you have hard days. As I said in my last post, I really have the same goals as you and doing the same. I also use Evernote (for a few month now), it's so useful ! Before that I had a ton of notepad files on my desktop =D
      And I didn't know Pomodoro but I'm trying it for 2 days. I think that can work, but it's not always adapted for all tasks.
      What I wanted to say is that I also have problems sometimes to do all what I wrote on my to do list, but still we have to persevere, we have to keep going and never give up.
      I also want to do a 15 minutes morning jog, but it's not easy and we have to keep trying, and finally we'll success.
      Around two month ago, I began to get up every morning at 7. And now I get up every morning at 7 (only few exceptions when I go to sleep late, but those are exceptions).

      GL and stand up !
    • Wolfske
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      Rise and shine :D
      good feedback again. I wiil finish the 7 habit book no matter what as i am also making notes i can do short reviews of the habits so i can keep repeating them :) sshould be interesting. Today : job training a trip of 1,5 hours :) with train so a lot of time to read
    • Wolfske
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      Did some stuff for work untill now :)
      The schooling I got was a very complex matter .. I also new my experienced co workers struggel with this .. so I made a schedule .. well I am making one ...

      A small one is done now .. I almost worked 3 hours on it :P I'm not sure if they will think it's helpfull but I think it is ...

      The big one will be way more difficult .. it's not for today lol :) Probably gonna need days to finish that one :)

      Well productive day nonetheless ! :)
    • Wolfske
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      Productive day again.
      long story short: when you feel very tired or when you feel your day is done around 17-18.00 , take a powernap ... I prefer the name 'wondernap' :f_love:

      Boosted my day, watched 2 videos afterwards, forced myself to exercise, now going to take a shower and after that I will read in my book .. maybe complete habit 2 :)

      Feeling pretty positive the last few days .. even though some personal stuff in my life aren't going as I want them to go. Those are stuff that are not in my circle of influence so the only thing I can do is keep a positive mindset and use the stuff in my circle of influence to expand it so maybe the negative part of my life will change for the better.

      If it won't change for the better at least I can say everything in my life is awesome except for that thing that becomes such a tiny part next to all the other area's of my life !

      I feel confident, healthy, good, positive and also productive. I believe I can achieve something in my life!
    • Wolfske
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      Oh yeah forgot to tell this.
      Last week a co-worker said that she thinks some day I could be 'the boss' :D I started laughing as I thought she was joking but she actually kept a straight face saying it. Another collegue who heard it affirmed it :tongue: and the leader of our workteam said that if there will be contract she will fight to keep me at my job because I'm doing great ...

      It's not my dream job but the longer I do it the more it starts to look like it could be one day ! I might be able to climb the letter although I'm still not sure this is the ladder I want to climb.
    • Wolfske
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      Update :

      :diamond: - Still waking up early : nice, Proud of myself here
      :diamond: - sport could be better but this week I already exercised 3 times wich is not bad and definantly an improvement
      :diamond: - project for work: could be better, some struggles here but still I'm keeping my ears and eyes open for problems while I try to finish my current project.
      :diamond: - Book: didn't read a lot this week, but did finish habit 2 , did not take a lot of notes as there are good schedules in the book.
      :diamond: - Food: Should be better, going to tweak this bigtime today

      :diamond: - Poker: it's not going bad but I really want it to be better. While I learned much about mindfullness and psychology I still believe I need to review more.
      I also believe that my 24 table set up is not good for me yet. I think my level is not high enough to achieve this so I'm going back to a 12 - 16 table lay out
      I improved my HUD, still needs some tweaks though.
      My staking BR is around $200+ now so that not bad since I was at a -$ at the beginning of the month

      :diamond: Social life: didn't plan anything this week... but because I felt more energized I also opened up more than normal so that's not bad but it should be better :)
    • Wolfske
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      Well the last few days I felt like I was doing stuff but it also felt unorganised and random ... I did not really know what to do about it ...
      But just now I read habit 3: wich basically is about getting stuff done ...

      A short summary is setting priorities by telling yourself what is urgent and what is not and also telling yourself what is important and what is not. One could identify different roles here and set weekly goals (without losing the longterm goal vision offcourse).

      It's about quadrant 2 work wich basically is the non urgent work wich is important. People always forget about it and focus to much on quandrant 1 wich are the urgent important tasks ... Focussing on quandrant 2 can give structural solutions for quadrant 1 problems. Eg. delegating a task to a co-worker (it's explained in the book wich approach is the best here ..)


      This chapter made me realize that I neeed to revise my personal mission statement so I can set accurate goals :) I decided to do this in the next hour :D wish me luck !
    • Wolfske
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      Originally posted by Wolfske
      My vision statement:

      So one day I was walking on the street and I noticed this guy. He seemed like a very happy guy he smiled at me as I passed through. The guy also seemed fit and really seemed to enjoy his day.

      Days later I met him more and more. I am kind of a shy guy but one day he came to me and we talked. It was a nice talk. I learned he also loves poker and he’s pretty good at it. I hope to play on the same stakes as him someday and become a MTT specialist myself. He also told me about his awesome weekend. He went to a great party and said I should join him next time because it was really fun. I also kinda noticed he had a nice physique. He was pretty muscular and looked very healthy.

      So next weekend I decided to meet up with him at a party. I had an OK time but not great. I felt the urge to get drunk so I could be more social to strangers. I stopped doing that …so my party wasn‘t that awesome. My new friend didn’t seem to have those problems. He didn’t consume alcohol but talked to a lot of his friends and also strangers. He was having an awesome time. At the party he was telling some cool stories about travels he made. It was unbelievable.

      As time progressed we became good friends. We didn’t have a lot of quantity time because he was always going on new adventures and stuff. But when I needed him he was always there. He always had nice stories to tell. When we would get an argument we would easily settle and he didn’t have the urge to win. He respected my opinion as I did respect his.

      As I learned to know him better he told me about his job. It was a job wich wasn’t to demanding but was really satisfactory and because of his job and poker winnings he really earned some money wich made him able to do the activities he wanted to do so he never had to worry about the money. He was also thinking about making his own cooperation and maybe quitting his job. But he wasn’t sure on that yet. He had some nice plans though and because of his social behaviour a lot of connections to help him achieving this.

      Well one day he told me to meet him at a fun fair. The weirdest thing happened. Nobody was at the fun fair and it gave me the chills. Well we were supposed to meet up at a place with funny mirrors .. But I didn’t see him anywhere. This wasn’t his habit. Maybe he was inside the tent. So I went inside and I only saw one mirror in this tent … on top of the mirror it said : ‘future you’. I looked into the mirror and there was my friend.

      This guy wich seemed so awesome was future me !
      First step:
      In bold important stuff
      In red : stuff I don't find very important and wich actually seem to confuse me or have a story behind it
    • Wolfske
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      Vision statement:

      If I would die, what would I like people to say on my funeral:
      - Parents:
      They would say I had a good behaviour, I was smart, succesfull in my carreer and that I could work very hard when I needed to.
      They would say I was succesfull at a social life too because I had a bunch of good friends and a nice girlfriend.

      - Girlfriend (wich I still have to meet)
      She'd say a was a good spouse, I was funny and would help her in doing some tasks in the house. She'd know I'd care about her very much and spent enough time with her so she never had to complain about that. I would also be the one who'd listen to her and could come up with fun activities because of that.

      - Co-workers
      They'd say I was really smart and driven, enthousiastic. They would say I have vision and discipline. I was a great communicator. They would also say I was very assertive and had the guts to tell my opinion to supervisor but in a polite manner. They would say that I knew almost everything and that they could come to me with all of their workrelated questions (and also private). They would say I was also a great friend besides a great coworker.

      - Friends (this part I find very difficult to know what I want)
      They would say I was funny and really liked my stupid jokes. They would also say I was fun to hang out with. They would say they could come to me with their problems. They would say I knew a lot of people.

      - Fitness friends:
      They'd say that I had iron determination. I was a great example and motivator for most of them and even though I was not really strong or really muscular I was the guy who showed everybody how it's done eventhough I wasn't a great talent I still achieved a lot due to determination and perseverance.

      - Poker friends
      I was a very creative poker player with his own personal style. I was also very good at it and could easily make a living out of it if I wanted to.

      - In general: (= principles)
      I was someone who was honest to everybody. I tried to be as fair as possible and treat everybody with respect and respected himself. I was someone who tried to be patient with everybody



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      Stuff I'm not sure about : social activities , parties, trips, ...
      I really believe I'm not the person who likes to go out a lot. I like to do stuff but I don't like loud places .. I like some 'pubs' if they are not to loud and to busy. I'm good with small groups but not big ones and also don't like the interaction that comes with big groups. On the other hand I'd really like to meet new people irl so the only option I see atm is doing stuff with friends and asking them to take their friends with them .. but I don't see a way to avoid loud parties etc... I think it is necessary ... I don't know what I want here .. or how to achieve it or something .. It seems great to like parties but I don't ?


      So I really would like some feedback on my vision statement .. did I mis some life roles maybe ?
      And if someone could give me feedback on the stuff I'm not sure about that would be great ... Would it be possible to learn to appreciate parties ? Or would I find another solution for it ?
      I really don't know actually .. I'm pretty social though .. Many people like me and stuff but they also say I should go more to parties with them. Used to do it a lot used to enjoy them (because I was drunk most of the time lol :D ). But things changed I guess I grew older , many friends didn't go to those parties and suddenly I knew my group of friends but that was it ... so I was 'stuck' to them the whole evening.

      Don't know .. feedback ? (could be possible that it's a matter of finding I place wich I like go there regularly and meet the 'regulars' at that place so they can be my new friends ... or maybe I should go out with other friends so I could see if I would like that more, wich is possible I guess ... )
    • Wolfske
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      Tomorrow:

      Make week schedule
      Grind poker
      Cook
      Maybe try to go out with friends
      read book
      Make plans for next week
      exercise
      Make mealplans (or at least a part of it)
    • Wolfske
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      seems like I missed going out today .. I'm a weird person :D

      Good poker day btw ... $100 up :D
    • Wolfske
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      Man ... huge leaks ...
      Watched title match in Belgian football .. everybody got upset because Anderlecht won (no one likes us , we don't care) ... I couldn't help myself and had to react to some people .. got into big arguments :P even almost had a dispute with one of my best friends .. (that's fixed) :D

      I knew it was a bad idea and still I did it ... my poker sessions weren't that great .. actually everything after that moment went really bad ... I had to quit because I was close to tilt , I had to sit outside and cooldown .. did some meditation so that was the one smart thing I did :P

      Did a new poker session , again small .. but better than nothing .. :) know I really feel like gaming and doing nothing because I feel like I did a ton of stuff today but I didn't .. It's just some emotional sh*t that makes me feel like I worked hard ..

      Football is def -ev for me :f_biggrin:
      Did exercise though and washed my car ! and made some meal plans ! So only stuff I didn't do was watch pokervideo and read book... so little bit of damage control I guess :) Well huge life leak !

      Also made some plans for next week :D (almost got cancelled because of football arguments lol)