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    • LeliannaLee
      LeliannaLee
      Basic
      Joined: 26.02.2016 Posts: 38
      Hi everyone :f_biggrin:

      I'm Lelianna and I'm new to poker. I've been playing on Pokerstars for about a month now and not doing too good. I like to play tournaments but I'm getting disheartened by the games on Pokerstars because I'm forever getting knocked out with the best hand. :f_cry:

      My brother, Rob, tells me that I must be doing something right if I'm always being knocked out when favourite. He says it shows I'm playing good poker. However, when you keep being knocked out and watch your bankroll dwindle it makes you feel like you're not playing good poker. Some have said to me to stay away from the big stacks but how can you do that when you raise with AKs, get called by the big stack, flop an ace and a flush draw, bet and get raised by the big stack who shows you AQ and hits a Q on the river. I've only just started yet I feel like giving up already. :f_cry:

      Anyway, enough sob stories....hi to everyone :f_biggrin:
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    • Lazza61
      Lazza61
      Headadmin
      Headadmin
      Joined: 23.03.2011 Posts: 10,064
      Hey Leilanna,

      Welcome to PokerStrategy.com :welcome:

      Originally posted by LeliannaLee

      My brother, Rob, tells me that I must be doing something right if I'm always being knocked out when favourite. He says it shows I'm playing good poker.

      :f_biggrin:
      Make sure you keep listening to your brother. He is right. There is a nasty little thing in poker called variance. Poker players have a love/hate relationship with variance. There is good variance where you always hit your cards and even if you don't hit, villain misses too. Then there is bad variance. :facepalm:

      Bad variance is where your AA gets cracked by random rags, your huge straight and flush draw combos always miss and of course, villain always hits his.

      The key is to be able to brush that off and keep doing the same thing. Don't get scared and don't lose faith. If you do you may find yourself folding profitable hands just because they lost the last x times.

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      Have fun :gl:

      Laz
    • LeliannaLee
      LeliannaLee
      Basic
      Joined: 26.02.2016 Posts: 38
      Thanks for the encouragement, Laz. After a night's sleep I feel better about my play and am raring to go again today. I guess I have to learn to take the rough with the smooth. Obviously I'm still a novice and have a lot to learn but I'll stick to it and hopefully improve my game and try to embrace the good variance whilst shrugging off the bad. :f_wink:
    • Lazza61
      Lazza61
      Headadmin
      Headadmin
      Joined: 23.03.2011 Posts: 10,064
      Originally posted by LeliannaLee
      Thanks for the encouragement, Laz. After a night's sleep I feel better about my play and am raring to go again today. I guess I have to learn to take the rough with the smooth. Obviously I'm still a novice and have a lot to learn but I'll stick to it and hopefully improve my game and try to embrace the good variance whilst shrugging off the bad. :f_wink:
      That's the spirit. :f_thumbsup: In poker, you have to be a mental rock. This game has almost destroyed me twice to the point where I stopped playing. If it hadn't been for Jared Tendler's wonderful book, The Mental Game of Poker, I might still not be playing.

      I even composed my own mantra to recite over for those really bad days:



      I will be the branch that sways in the wind, but never breaks
      I will be the trampled flower, that rises at the sight of the sun
      I may be bowed, but I WILL NOT be beaten


      Now I have complete acceptance of variance and accept both the good and bad. I also enjoy playing a lot more then I did back then. :f_grin:

      May your monsters hold :gl:

      Laz