I'm not sure if this topic belongs here but I believe it involves psychology and management as far as time/dedication to poker goes. If this is the wrong place please move it to the appropriatte forum, thanks!
OK first off my situation:
I love this site and I enjoy playing Poker. I think I understand what it's about, all the mathematical concepts behind it and why, in the long term and if you're good enough, you can really achieve alot with this. I feel I at least have the potential to become a great winning player in this, and so it's natural I want to dedicate time to doing something I'm good at and has good long term prospects.
My schedule right now only permits me to play around 2 hours per day or so, and so I play at night (Mexico time) which is when I'm usually done with my homework and there's lots of fishes waiting to donate money. The problem with this is it's always when my mom comes back from work, and so she has a mental image of me playing every time she sees me at home, and believes I am becoming obssesed and addicted and it might be a serious problem.
I tried explaining to her the other day about how in the end and long term it becomes a mathematical game, and how I haven't invested a single cent out of my own money, and how I at least deserve the benefit of the doubt at how I invest my time and effort into my activities, since I'm a grown adult (21 years old) and very responsible. She knows how dedicated I am to things I enjoy doing, which include: top 3 grades in my chemical engineering major with 3 more semesters to go, football on 2 different teams for 3 years now, the Pokemon TCG where I actually have helped her pay for tuition fees and financed myself trips for her and myself we couldn't have done otherwise, and the list goes on.
Basically what is affecting me the most is the stupid stigma the word 'Poker' has attached to that involves gambling. Of course if you don't know what you're doing and you 'play with your heart' lol as one of my friends says, it doesn't become something you can do profitable, but my results so far speak for themseleves, and I never pass up on homework/football/parties/girls/friends/etc. to instead be able to play a few extra hands for the day. I really want to make her understand that I am NOT gambling, I am learning, improving my play, and deicating time to an activity I enjoy doing, time which I could easily be spending on playing the Pokemon TCG, videogames, or just being dumb on the computer while in my house and all my chores/homework has been done.
How do I make her understand? Should I just ignore it and let her see the long term results for herself? I'm afraid she's going to get the whole family together to do an intervention soon lol which would be pretty hilarious because she is seriously blowing this out of proportion. She even said it looks like I'm gaining weight because of all the time I spend on the computer, which is stupid because I wouldn't be out at 8pm on a weekday since I have already gone to the gym by then and would jst be spending my time on the internet or watching TV, but instead I spend it on Poker, an activity which could become something meaningful in the near future.
Anyone else have any similar problems dealing with family members and their incapactiy to understand we are not gambling if we are disciplined about this, study, etc. to keep improving?
Thanks for any feedback!
OK first off my situation:
I love this site and I enjoy playing Poker. I think I understand what it's about, all the mathematical concepts behind it and why, in the long term and if you're good enough, you can really achieve alot with this. I feel I at least have the potential to become a great winning player in this, and so it's natural I want to dedicate time to doing something I'm good at and has good long term prospects.
My schedule right now only permits me to play around 2 hours per day or so, and so I play at night (Mexico time) which is when I'm usually done with my homework and there's lots of fishes waiting to donate money. The problem with this is it's always when my mom comes back from work, and so she has a mental image of me playing every time she sees me at home, and believes I am becoming obssesed and addicted and it might be a serious problem.
I tried explaining to her the other day about how in the end and long term it becomes a mathematical game, and how I haven't invested a single cent out of my own money, and how I at least deserve the benefit of the doubt at how I invest my time and effort into my activities, since I'm a grown adult (21 years old) and very responsible. She knows how dedicated I am to things I enjoy doing, which include: top 3 grades in my chemical engineering major with 3 more semesters to go, football on 2 different teams for 3 years now, the Pokemon TCG where I actually have helped her pay for tuition fees and financed myself trips for her and myself we couldn't have done otherwise, and the list goes on.
Basically what is affecting me the most is the stupid stigma the word 'Poker' has attached to that involves gambling. Of course if you don't know what you're doing and you 'play with your heart' lol as one of my friends says, it doesn't become something you can do profitable, but my results so far speak for themseleves, and I never pass up on homework/football/parties/girls/friends/etc. to instead be able to play a few extra hands for the day. I really want to make her understand that I am NOT gambling, I am learning, improving my play, and deicating time to an activity I enjoy doing, time which I could easily be spending on playing the Pokemon TCG, videogames, or just being dumb on the computer while in my house and all my chores/homework has been done.
How do I make her understand? Should I just ignore it and let her see the long term results for herself? I'm afraid she's going to get the whole family together to do an intervention soon lol which would be pretty hilarious because she is seriously blowing this out of proportion. She even said it looks like I'm gaining weight because of all the time I spend on the computer, which is stupid because I wouldn't be out at 8pm on a weekday since I have already gone to the gym by then and would jst be spending my time on the internet or watching TV, but instead I spend it on Poker, an activity which could become something meaningful in the near future.
Anyone else have any similar problems dealing with family members and their incapactiy to understand we are not gambling if we are disciplined about this, study, etc. to keep improving?
Thanks for any feedback!
