@Afonso thanks man and welcome, this is a concept I've learned from someone else, but only when u apply it to your own life you can see its use.
@sneaky yeah I think there is a danger in setting too unrealistic expectations, but at the same time setting them too low can also limit your progress. I guess it's a fine line
@chilli good idea, I will darken the font a little bit. I still think it helps to distinguish my writing from the other posters (thankfully there are some lol)
Ok guys, staying in offtopic land for this one. In my previous post I've talked about the use of negative emotions and what follows is a direct consequence for the good. Basically I was motivated enough to step up in one of my main areas - pick up.
As you might have guessed, I am interested in picking up girls, but I rather incorporate it in the concept of 'Adventure' - making your life like a movie. So in what follows I will take you on a journey through all that happened in last night's adventure, both inside and outside of my head.
WARNING: I go very into detail sometimes, so you can see all my thought processes, how I overcome bad emotions, negativity etc, to bring the PowerHouse out to play and dominate. You can see exactly how I go from anxiety at the start of the night to effortlessly flowing through rivers of glory and girls.
This is just a probe post that I initially wrote for myself, sharing it to give you (and me, since I haven't incorporated this fully)some insight into how this kind of lifestyle looks like. Let me know if you like it / want more of this 
Legend of Daimon
Started the night off with a braveheart decision, to not wait for the guys (alin+florin) and go out alone ahead to this pool party I had heard of. To me going out alone, especially in a night time environment, was out of my reality. But I know Alin does this quite frequently so I figure this is my opportunity to give it a try. Doing this is very in alignment with one of my key values, being self reliant.
They are on a double date so I figure this is it. Going to talk to strangers + being alone there = some hardcore shit for me, since I haven’t been out regularly in ages and lately I didn’t get very good reactions lol. Oh and as a bonus, most of the day I’ve had a shit mood, so repulsive, but in a way it’s good because it gave me extra leverage – had negative emotions partly because not stepping up in this area of my life lately.
Pumped some RSD Alexander~ in my system before going out and put my focus on relaxing, which I feel is the best thing u can do about your state.
As I leave my house alone and get to the subway (got a free pass lol), some anxiety creeps in, totally natural. I handle this by saying ‘no, it’s ok dude, you should feel awesome right now, you are finally stepping up!’ and looking on some notes from the past where I acknowledge my successes in this area. I read and smile.
I figure I should start getting in a social mood asap and talk to random people (on the subway, on the road there), but I hesitate and not do it. Which was fine, tried not to judge / put pressure on myself too much, which is key from not falling into a negative mindset. Any time anxiety arises, I am like ‘man this is awesome, I am actually going out alone to game, I am stepping up HARD’.
I finally get there, could get my gf to come over (she was nearby) and I would feel a lot less awkward but I decide no, this would kill all the challenge. I have no tic-tacs (breath mints) so I’m like fml I will just get water there asap – of course I also decided not to drink alcohol, trying not to rely on dat shit, because Perfection.
So I figure I’ll issue myself a challenge. I was quite thirsty so I’m like “no, you can’t drink water until you talk to two sets of girls”. This should provide extra leverage to get me going at the beginning, which I think is key.
I go in and it all looks quite cool!
Not a lot of people there yet, but I like the place. So I get my phone out (my best try to not look like a lonely creep) for some comfort, while I look around anxiously. I move around, I am guessing people start noticing me being alone and weird so I figure I should start taking action soon, before going in a bad mood spiral. I really wanted the water so I’m ‘Ok let’s get you the water. Just two sets come on.’
Eventually I go to these two girls who are sitting by the pool, realized I had some standards that it should go well but ‘man, all you have to do is open and see what happens’. I do it, have a little bit of a chat, open like “hey ladies, how is the water?” (they had their feet in water lol), I eject before it gets too awkward. Short and sweet interactions early, more intense as the night progresses, makes a lot of sense!
Got this out of the way, time for the 2nd approach and I can get my water. A little time goes by as I’m not very decisive. Almost break my agreement with myself and go to the bar. “Hey, 1 approach is good too, bro!”. Then I remember RSD Brad saying he would buy the drink, but could not drink from it until he approaches. So I am like yeah, I can buy my water, but won’t drink from it.
So here I am walking around with a glass of water and a bottle in my hand. Usually I am trying to make it not look I am drinking water because I fear I will be judged like /he’s poor, he’s too boring lol/, so getting it in a glass with ice and lemon is a good one. This time however I had to take the rest of the water with me in the bottle, so I borrow a frame I got from RSD Alex – “I am going to the gym tomorrow, I can’t drink tonight” to make it all ok.
I finally do my 2nd approach, where I ask some girls if they will participate in beer pong, I get to me not drinking alcohol and why, and right as I’m talking to them I start to sip from my water. Aaaah so refreshing!
From this on, I am feeling more ok and start getting into the groove. I figure my whole frame will be like “I am just waiting for my friends to get here, so I’m talking to you to not get bored”, which I feel is very solid and honest.
Approach another 2set asking some random shit lol, one of them is ok, the other, a redhead reacts negatively. No problem, just acknowledge her bad mood and keep it going. I get some shit for my tanktop, like they are for girls haha, but I find it funny and take it even further saying it’s too long and looks like a dress, keep my mood light. Eventually they open up and start getting quite engaged. I tell them I am just talking to them until my friends get here to not get bored and they relax like ‘yeah cool, u can hang around’.
The skill of just talking shit gets very important here. If I let a period of silence be too long because I don’t know what to say, it gets awkward for all of us. This is why as rsd alex says, it’s about having a large quantity of what to say, not quality.
The 3 girls want to take a pic with me so they look for the event’s photographer I’m like ‘haha ok I guess I’m cool’. We do it and I start chatting up the photographer, which seems to be a really cool guy.
I decide to go into ‘adventure mode’ and make it fun when he tells me I look familiar to him. I am like ‘yeah, I think I know you too!’ (lol). He tells me he also works as a reporter. I get a click in my mind of a guy I randomly met from some newspaper a few days ago and I am like yeah, maybe he’s a common friend of ours lol. He’s like oh you mean Andrew or Gaby? I randomly choose and say yeah that one. “He’s a little fat and very sociable, right?”. “I am like yeah, him.” We vibe ok, I tell him I play poker, he says oh so you’re a famous poker player around here, eh (guessing at this point I had the angelic aura going on)? I look like I’m trying to be humble about it like, yeah, I do pretty well haha. All this time I see the 3 girls looking over, I feel so cool haha.
>>me trying to photobomb the 'Home Base' girls
I go back to them at this point they clearly like me, they are ok but none of them look very hot so I’m like yeah they’ll be my friends. Somewhere around this point my friends Alin (like all in haha lol such a bad joke) and Florin arrive, which gives me a lot more situational confidence. Get a good feeling that I’ve done quite well alone until they arrived and they didn’t find me by myself, drunk in some corner, crying. I get more motivation to tear it up. I start going around with them, I feel even better to see I am already warmed up and they are still a bit awkward, not like in a mean way, but to step up and motivate them.
So I take initiative, approach some more girls. The 3 girls from earlier keep leering around me haha. I talk to them from time to time, but try not to get too comfortable with them and keep putting myself out there. At this point I am really just amusing myself, I feel ON, expressing myself crisp and clear. I have the aura of the Gods, people around are looking at me, so this is what it feels like.
I go to some girls in white t-shirts and I ask them if I can be in their clan of white t-shirts (lol wtf) since my tanktop is also partly white. They love me, also are a little drunk, the cute one grabs me by the neck and gets close, kind of like ‘haha I got him first’. I feel I can kiss her, but don’t really need to, they start talking about my boobs (lol), I hang around a little more, it’s on with the cute one, but no rush I go around some more.
I talk to my baseline group of 3girls from earlier and Alin comes in, saying ‘what are the chances of us having a 3some?’ (hahah). They react quite badly, giving him a lot of shit about how unfunny that was lol. I already feel part of their group and try to ease them down, telling him about the redhead (which also gave me shit earlier) that it’s ok that’s how she behaves normally. They end up blowing him off (they don’t realize he was one of my friends I was expecting lol), telling me how much they like me, that they normally don’t accept people in their group, but I’m fun and I’m the only reason they are still around, because they find the party boring. I go like ‘sooo.. wanna have a 3some?’. They bust out laughing and I once again confirm that it’s about the vibe and comfort, since what got them pissed earlier from Alin, now got them lolling. In my mind I’m like feel the Power, bitches!
At this point I am on like a motherfucker, I decide fuck it let’s make this epic. I take my tanktop off and show my wonderful aesthetics, since it is a pool and already saw ppl in bathing suits. People are obviously mirin’. Walk around in my skinny jeans, to find my friends, they are engaged with two girls, I parade around they are too into the girls interaction, fuck it. I go back to my girls and then to the cute white shirt girl from earlier who is sitting by the pool.
She still loves me of course, standing right next to my face. I kiss her, she laughs and says she hates me and ‘oh what r u doing to me’, we makeout some more, she says she wants to go into the water with me (I had my bathing suit on underneath my jeans) so I’m like ‘yeah, later’, kiss some more. Her ugly friend sprays water on us, I’m like omg bitch I hope u didn’t ruin my hair, I bounce.
>>ultra hottie in the middle, with random weaklings
Now I’m on fire, see some cute girl in bikini + some top walking by, I decide to stop her when it’s a bit too late (she had already passed me by), but I’m loud, playful and decisive like “you! Come here, now! Haha omg”. She smiles, instantly comes, we chat for a while, my homebase girls leave at this point, waving to me. Looks like Alin is talking to a friend of bikini girl so we head over there, go back and forth, I try to get closer but blah it doesn’t go.
I go talk to some girl I made some remark about at the start of the evening (when beginning socializing mode), I reengage her, she is very cute. After talking to her for a while, looks like she is the gf of the DJ, a celebrity (my rommate is a big fan of his) haha, we vibe for a while, I let her go.
While chatting to the guys, a girl comes to me randomly and asks me to take a picture of her because it’s a challenge. I’m like ‘haha ok, this is the lamest challenge ever’ (lamest excuse to approach me), but I am a forgiving person.
Later on me, Alin and Florin get to the final set of the night, there is a girl I had already talked to at the beginning of the night (saying I don’t drink because of the gym) and she recalls that, I vibe with her, looks like we have a weird amount of stuff in common (eating healthy, gym, writing with a fountain pen lol, plans to be an entrepreneur). She is quite into me, I can tell she is trying to impress me and she is talking a lot, I am ok with that.
At this point my friends want to go, my gf is waiting to see me someplace else, I had been telling her I’m on my way lol. So I grab the girls number and go.
We bounce, going downtown where there usually is action, also my gf is around there, I tell her I won’t be long with the guys so she’ll wait for me some more, she has someone to keep her company so it’s ok.
We’re in a good mood, the place is quite empty, Alin goes to talk to some foreign girls, I jump in, get in an argument about nordic people having accents, and I go “Yeah they do have an accent, they go like Her Lepaaarco” – which is finnish for Mr. Bat lol, an inside joke with Alin, we both start saying to the girl loudly HER LEPARCO! She keeps being wtf hahah nice timez.
We go into a loud club, Alin is on top of things approaching like a machine. I less comfortable in this venue because of the banging music, making talking almost impossible. I also find a set of two girls, the cute one blows me off. I end up talking to her friend which is uglier but meh whatever, she is receptive, I do some retarded sandwich dance with her to get my hands warm, she is a little bit intimidated haha. I tell her I was a dancer for a club for 2 years (lol) and show her some of my retarded moves. I see my gf had been calling me a lot of times, I go out to talk and this is where the night ends – I didn’t even fck my gf, so this is a sad story (more chances to fuck the white shirt girl at the party haha).
The cool thing is this sets a refference point for the future, that I can do all this stuff again. So for a while I won’t put any pressure/expectation on my nights(I accept that not all nights can be like this – night variance), since I had this one. This makes it more likely to have a good night in the future. Anyway I am preparing to go to a nearby city I love to visit a friend and this is pretty much what I will do there, so this is a good warmup.
>> thumbs up from me in the background
Review
So many valuable lessons from this night!
On going out alone – it really isn’t as bad as you think it is. When gaming, you’re not spending too much time with your friends anyway. Very good idea from Alin is to make friends with a group at the beginning of the night (like I made with the 3 girls) and make them your base, go back to them between sets. He goes out 50% of the time alone, and he goes out a LOT.
Having ‘friends’ be with you is just some mental comfort, it doesn’t do that much for you in practical terms. This empowers you to know you don’t need somebody ‘special’ to go out and game like a mothefucker.
When you’re alone it’s up to you if you’ll be the weird guy awkward guy talking to strangers or the cool, sociable guy knowing and meeting anyone
Props
I can have an awesome adventure by myself
As long as you stay in set and express yourself freely, people begin to love you
I can talk and keep a set engaged forever
I don’t wait on someone else to take initiative, I take it and inspire others
Also can game in really loud environments (sandwich dance ftw lol)
Lessons
Focus on relaxing
Get leverage for those first few approaches (drink etc)– accept that you’ll feel awkward, totally fine
You don’t need momentum, a good mood; this night is proof you can make it epic anytime
Very low criteria for first approaches – even ‘hi’ is enough
It’s about making myself ok with it, and they will be ok (being alone, not drinking etc) – being alone and approaching yeah I’m just shy and I am working on socializing
Once you’re into a bit more social mood, negative feedback is just fun haha
It’s about talking a lot especially at the beginning of the interaction, any random shit environment, their clothes etc)
Make it fun for yourself – more epic, better mood, better story to tell(w/ photographer etc)
So what could I have done better?
Go for the number on more interactions. Even if you don’t use it, just build the skill.
Don’t arrange to see gf later in the night, since other opportunities can arise (I think I could have gotten the white shirt home).
ISOLATE GIRLS! And push sets as far as you can. I really think I could have fingered/fucked the white shirt at the party if I had taken her aside.
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