Hi thorturgutt,
It is ok to ask general questions about how to transfer but against the rules to ask members for a specific personal transfer. This is to protect our members (including yourself) from any possible financial or personal data loss.
Due to the context of your original post however, happy to leave intact, just please don't seek a player-player transfer with the forums. If you do, we will have to close/remove your threads and could potentially ban you from the forums, so please refrain from doing so 
Regarding your original question, there are good 3rd party companies that you can use, including moneybooker, neteller, etc.
These generally charge a small amount for each transfer, so just do a bit a research on this first before committing yourself. Also just check that transfers from these are allowed on each of your poker accounts.
You can find out more about moneybookers/neteller etc from their own websites or of course by doing a search within the PokerStrategy forums.
I would actually dispute Full Tilt being any softer than Stars, they are very similar, but good luck buddy, wish you well with the transfer and your poker.
Best regards,
Bart