Updated on 21 Feb 26 by
Barry Carter
Poker Expert

How to find your 'Squad' of poker friends

Find some enthusiastic poker friends and you will improve very quickly, says Dara O'Kearney.

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Who you spend time with matters

When I see an up-and-coming player, the biggest green flag I see that suggests they might be a future star is who they socialise with and the questions that they ask.

All the best players have a peer group of similar players. I have seen it a lot in the UK and Ireland, groups with good players in them lift each other up.

Poker may be a zero-sum game at the tables, but away from them, a rising tide lifts all ships.

So I urge all of you to find your 'crew' of like-minded players to discuss strategy with.

Find players at your level

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Dara O'Kearney

It might be tempting to find a group of crushers and parachute yourself into that group, but what tends to happen in those scenarios is that the weaker player frustrates the better players. There is too big a gulf between them, and strategy discussions become annoying.

Much better to find a group of similar-level players. The questions you ask won't irritate the top players and you will also be positioned to help the players underneath you.

The biggest benefit of finding a group of your own is that none of us know what we do not know. A crew of similar players will identify things you were not aware of in the game and show you viewpoints you have not considered.

Even more than ability, I would look for enthusiasm to learn when finding a peer group. That affords you all much more room to grow than pure talent.

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Barry Carter is the editor of PokerStrategy.com and the co-author of The Mental Game of Poker 1 & 2, Poker Satellite Strategy, PKO Poker Strategy, Endgame Poker Strategy, GTO Poker Simplified, Mystery Bounty Poker Strategy and Beyond GTO. In 2025, he won the Global Poker Awards for Best Book and Twitter Personality of the Year.