Am I tilting?

1) you have no reason to shove the flop
he either has you beat or has a random bluff
And in the case of QQ-JJ (trapped KK) you are blocking half of the biggest turn scarecards for him (ace) by holding AA
So just call, and probably lose the stack anyways vs his hand
But at least you let him stack off with worse too

2)Same thing, now you should bet, represent as many bluffs as possible as when you check call it's obvious you have a made hand
So cbet small, let him spew and float you light and then throw in checks on the turn so it looks like you cbet and gave up
Again you'd lose your stack just the same but can play better against his other hands

First hand:
Lemon is right. You have no need to shove the flop. However I'm not sure it it makes that much difference. I don't think villain will minraise as a bluff here very often and with his value hands he probably is already committed. The action in this hand really looks he has a strong pocket pair, so when he had just TT and happened to hit a set with it, I think it is kind of a cooler.

Second hand:
There are better lines as mentioned above. And as played I think when villain pots the flop and jams the turn he has some quite strong hands in his range. Soo you should expect to lose this hand with some frequency and thats why I wouldn't call it a cooler.

IMO, coolers
1) as played OR call (flop) bet + AI on (turn) anyway
2) I would CBet (flop) and then bet + AI (turn) as the guy is probably weak giving the fact that he did not wait for big blind in UTG.
or CBet (flop) & C/R AI on (turn)

1rst hand:I think for me on the flop I would only call on the flop not raise him.
2 hand: cbet on flop and try to fold his hand if he call bet on turn again and same on river and if he raise nope just fold.