Hello, how’s going guys? First of all, sorry for taking so long in the next post, I plan to do about 3-4 post per month.
PART IV- Perfectionism
In today's post I would like to talk about one of the leaks that has cost me the most to overcome, and that is perfectionism, whatever his origin, childhood, common belief, etc., perfectionism is frequently associated with the problem of not being able to let go of mistakes, but let's analyze perfectionism from a conscious and mechanical point of view.
Conscious:
Many times we have the belief that perfectionism is the way to reach the highest level, and we see many very successful people in their field as perfectionists, and although it may work for some people, the reality is that, while setting realistic high standards, it is Importantly, expecting perfection in whatever we do will not only be impossible but also frustrating.
From what we know about the "flow state"(the peak of human performance), is that optimal performance appears when the challenge makes the individual strive to achieve an achievable goal just above their current peak, setting unrealistically high goals has proven detrimental to reaching these states.
Another point that I would like to talk about is the common mistake of judging ourselves harshly after a mistake, if we were someone's coach and he made a mistake in a tournament, probably what we would do would be to make him see the mistake so it doesn’t happen again, but seek to give him confidence to continue focus in the tournament, we would not use words like, what an idiot you were! Why the hell did you do that? How do you hope to win playing like this! because clearly these expressions are not only unnecessary, but They are also destructive and will not help you at all, so how could it be okay for us to talk to each other like this after a mistake?
Since the post was longer than I expected, I will do a second part on this topic, tell me what you think, greetings and good luck at the tables!